5 Questions to Ask Before Hiring a Nanny

Hiring a nanny is a different commitment than booking an occasional sitter — you're building a working relationship that might last years. That means the questions worth asking go beyond experience and certifications.

1. What does a typical day look like for you? Listen for structure without rigidity — someone who can describe a rhythm but adapts it to a fussy morning is usually the right balance.

2. How do you handle disagreements about parenting approach? You want someone who'll raise a concern directly with you, not silently do it their own way or silently resent doing it yours.

3. What would make you leave a family? This feels blunt, but the answer tells you a lot about what they need to feel respected and supported in the role.

4. How do you spend downtime with a sleeping or independent-playing child? Some of the best nannies use that time for light housework or prep; you should know what to expect.

5. Can I check in with a recent family? Not just any reference — a recent one. Caregiving styles and life circumstances change; a five-year-old reference tells you less than you'd think.